If you're not stressed at points during your week, you're either not trying hard enough, or you're simply not doing your job right! Anything worth doing is worth getting stressed about. If you're not stressed at work, guess what, you simply don't care.
Stress can be highly dangerous and destructive but, handled with care, it can be a part of your career that you can roll with and be even more brilliant. Some of the best recruiters I have ever met make it look easy, not because they don't hit the same challenges that we all do, they've simply mastered their own stress levels and worked out how to overcome them.
This isn't a piece of advice, this is a hard and fast requirement that we all need to grasp to be successful in work, socially and in everything that we do.
Stress and frustration can be a lonely feeling. Like you're the first person to ever feel that way. Having the courage and foresight to control the stress in your job can be one of the most powerful steps you can take to being the recruiter you want to be and building the market you think and know you can.
When speaking to my consultants, and when coaching new staff, it's probably one of the first 3 things I teach them and the one thing that I always make sure to go back over with them at every stage of their development.
We all have our own ways of dealing with things that challenge us at work. However, it's a really liberating experience to take some time to search out what others do to handle things. Talk to people outside your firm, join some industry forums and start a thread or simply take a look on the internet or in your nearest book shop on new ways to find your Zen.
It's not about being good at wallowing in the stressful situation that you find yourself in as a recruiter, it's about working out how to get over it quicker, to get back on that horse faster and get yourself back in a winning position faster that your competition. The quicker you suck up the loss, the quicker you get to the next victory and as all recruiters know, no matter how bad the lows can be, the highs out weigh them and make us come back for more.
Stress as a recruiter is dangerous. Seriously! It can harm your relationships and overall quality of life. Stress is part of what we do. The reality is we need to handle it. To have some releases that ease pressure. Get perspective. Whatever happened, it’s not that serious. Breathe! Push back from your desk. Take a deep breath. Deliberately and consciously shift your thinking. Recognise warning signs. Take action. Go for a walk, round the block or just to the coffee machine. Speak to someone you trust. Don't vent out, vent up! Speak to someone you respect, trust and report in to. Don't be a public venter, your peers have their own stress, they don't need your's aswell! Don't be afraid to take a step back. Most top recruiters are where they are because they know how to handle tough times.